• Let your loved one go in peace, knowing that you have given your best.
• Express emotions; do not hold feelings inside.
• You may feel sad, helpless and anxious at what transpired.
• Do not blame yourself.
• You may have had to make choices that was for the best.
• Accept what you are going through.
• Do not downplay your emotions but do not over think those moments too.
• It is important that you take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal.
• Get adequate rest, food and stay hydrated.
• Take support, turn to music, meditation etc and to the postive things in life.
• Do not turn to alcohol or substance abuse.
• Please do reach out for appropriate support in case you face trauma related distress.
• Envision a future without the deceased.
• Strengthen other relationships.
• Be at peace with the narrative story of death – don’t let it be one of sadness and guilt.
• Move forwards with good and healthy memories of the beloved.
• Now gift yourself the power of healing.

With inputs from Dr. CJ John